NPR’s Valentine’s Day… too close to home
The final red flag was that she told me not to tell anyone she was my girlfriend. She had another boyfriend at home that she was in the process of breaking up with. And it was over, but if it got back to him, you know, it’d be bad.
So she would go home every weekend and visit him. And at one point, she said she had to go home more frequently because his parents were sick. So she had to console him in that. And I thought, well, you know, the guy’s parents are dying. So I had to be understanding.
I also put up with it because I couldn’t believe how lucky I was just to be with her. In retrospect I understand how selfish she was, but at the time I didn’t know that. When you’re in a relationship with someone who’s selfish, what keeps you in it is the fact that when they shine on you, it’s like this souped-up shine. And you feel like you’re in the club. And you don’t even know what the club is, you just know you want to stay in it.